*I've found this file in my laptop today. So I decided to put it here in happylupuslife blog. I think I wrote this in college. Never mind the wrong grammar :) haha! *
Having a single-parent type of family does not mean it is already called as incomplete. I live with my mother which I call Ma or Mama in personal. She is a kind of person that knows which is good and which is bad. Her disciplinary actions are just right for my conduct and she performs the role of being a mother and at the same time being a father. She tries her best to raise me up as her only child and hopes that someday I will become one of the successful persons in the whole world.
I was born in Mother of Perpetual Help Hospital and grew up in my grandparents’ house wherein they have a mini store as a source of income of my grandmother. As her grandchild, I was tasked to help her in selling foods which were available in her store. It was in my sixth grade when my mother decided to get her share in our lot and built a house located near the fields. The environment is refreshing in which there are different kinds of trees, plants and flowers surrounding the area.
My Mom began working in the government for how many years already even when I’m not still in her womb. Because of her work, she needed the help of our neighbor and my other aunties and relatives to take care of me while she is in office. On the other hand, she teaches me about my homeworks and reviews me whenever we have our exams even if she is coming home late at night. I did not grow as her spoiled daughter. I only receive what I deserve. Those things given by my mother were enough. Obviously, my mother is the one making decision in our family. She is the one who settle on or decide about different matters at home and other aspects in life. When talked about decision making, I still consult or rely on my Mom though most of the time I solve problems by myself or with the help of my friends.
Though I do not have any siblings, I still have my cousins in which I can join their group and have fun with. We have these similarities on the things we like and dislike that’s why we have a special and closed intact relationship. Our whole family meets every Sunday and whenever there are special occasions such as birthdays and thanksgiving celebration.
In times of stress, I rely on my friends. I can open up my problems with my friends because they know when I’m stressed and they will find a solution so that I would be okay. To name a few, they are my highschool and college friends and the people I’ve met through an online forum courtesy by Lupus Inspired Advocacy(LUISA) wherein I began to experience the love from a social support group teaching me on holding on despite of the illness I have. I have many friends of the same sex wherein they help me whenever I need them, talk to me whether in happy or bad times. I am sure that they love and care for me. I also have friends of the opposite sex and the closest person to me is J who acts as my little father, a brother and a friend.
There will be no problem when it comes on helping other people as long as I can. It makes me happy whenever I see others who received my help. It is very nice to hear whenever one person will let you hear his or her sincere “thank you”.
If I were given the chance to take care of a newborn, I would gladly accept it since I do not have any siblings. Another reason is it is good to see newborns that are smiling on you and talking to you though their words are not fully understood.
As of now, I cannot live independently since I’m still reliant on my mother. But my mother started to train me and teach me about other things I need to learn because she is always saying that she is already old and she can’t be with me all the time. She emphasizes that I need to develop a good heart and mind and respect should not vanish.
Whenever I enter a school or university, one thing is for sure, they will think and notice that I’m a silent type of girl but easy to be with. I am frequently shy with my teachers but love to be with my schoolmates and classmates. At the end of every term, I can give happiness to my Mom by simply dedicating to her the awards I got in school years. On the schools I have attended, they taught me and build up my personality as a simple person and as a student.
To make sure that I made the right decision, I consult other people about it. Sometimes I easily get influenced by environmental and social factors which may lead of having an unstable decision. When faced with problems, I asked Lord’s guidance and have a talk with my friends and special persons in my life. Sometimes, I’m losing my appetite when having problems or I prefer to eat ice cream and other delicious foods in which they can relieve the stress in me. Most of the time, I consider problems as challenging ones. I get excited and at the same time nervous when a new situation would happen. I usually finish projects that I begin but sometimes it takes times before I can finish one. I admit that sometimes I’m losing my patience on working with other things which are difficult but then other things when finish is a great achievement for me and that adds strength to my personality.
I can describe myself as a silent type of girl but when I’m with my friends I feel comfortable enough that I can’t keep myself talking and talking. I have my plans in the future regarding my career which includes working first here in the Philippines and if ever there would be a chance to work in abroad I would grab the opportunity.
Community activities were my passion when I was in younger years. When I started to be in 2nd year college, I failed to attend a youth group organization which is called Parish Youth Ministry which lead to my decision that I need to drop it and focus to my studies.
As of now, I can see the improvements in our community since our parish priest together with the government and barangay officials were good combination to aim for a goal and that is to improve and transform our place to a beautiful and peaceful place to live in.
I believe every situation happened to me has a reason behind it. It may be bad or good but still it added something of what I am now. If I was thinking as an immature person, I would think that life is unfair. I did not even experience of having a real father or having a perfect family which consist of a father, mother and their children. But later I’ve realized that God has been good to me always and life is not unfair. Other people think of me as a person with strong personality. Despite of the problems being experience and the life I had, I am here having a positive outlook in life that someday I can surpass all of these and tell myself that I made it. What I really want is to be that someone who can inspire and help many people by serving them and at the same time learning also from them about their life’s experiences. One more thing is to give back to my Mom the love and care she showed me and I know that she deserves that kind of love from me.
